“Your own path you make with every step you take. “If you can see your path laid out in front of you step by step, you know it’s not your path,” Joseph Campbell said. How can we get rid of the “should” and find the “must” in our life? Therefore, as we grow up, we find it is easier to continue following the “should” path rather than trying to re-examine it and criticize it in order to step into our “must” path. It is not very difficult to realize that the “should” path that we walk was originally come from our parents, our close family members, and the surrounding environment when we were children. Sooner or later, we will face the situation that she described nicely when she said: “I was quickly approaching a crossroads in my life” a crossroads between living a life that is filled with others’ “should” or more of our own “must”. Whatever we do is either to fulfill external obligations or internal obligations. Elle discussed how we all have these two paths in our lives. What is the difference between “should” and “must”?Įlle Luna, the author of the The Crossroads of Should and Must: Find and Follow Your Passion book illustrates that “should” is everything we do to please and follow others’ opinions, while “must” is everything we do to follow our values and believes. Well, after reading this book, I realized how much “should” I have in my life where all that I need to have a meaningful life is to focus on my “must”.Īlthough the main argument in this book is not new, the author provides a very interesting and straight-to-the-point discussion that will help you to take immediate responsibility towards your “must”. I use both of them to represent a situation where I am obligated to do and I have no other choices but to do it. Have you ever thought about the difference between “should” and “must”? As a person who is using English as a second language, usually, I use the two terms synonymously.

The crossroads of should and must